1 00:00:01,100 --> 00:00:02,600 Previously on This Is Us... 2 00:00:02,668 --> 00:00:04,069 My mom is sick, and, 3 00:00:04,136 --> 00:00:05,928 uh, I'm still barely talking to Randall. 4 00:00:05,938 --> 00:00:08,239 But that's okay, because I am very excited 5 00:00:08,307 --> 00:00:11,409 to spend the next bunch of years sharing walls with this family. 6 00:00:11,477 --> 00:00:14,579 Uncle Nicky, what are you... what are you doing here? 7 00:00:14,647 --> 00:00:16,448 There is a job at Jack's school. 8 00:00:16,515 --> 00:00:17,926 I already talked to Dr. Salzman. She said 9 00:00:17,950 --> 00:00:20,062 that I would be great for it, and she offered it to me. 10 00:00:20,086 --> 00:00:21,386 Alex is a "they". 11 00:00:21,454 --> 00:00:22,764 And they're not just my best friend. 12 00:00:22,788 --> 00:00:25,423 - We're together. - You mean like a couple? 13 00:00:25,491 --> 00:00:27,525 Yeah, Mom, like a couple. 14 00:00:27,593 --> 00:00:28,937 There's this girl that I've been seeing. 15 00:00:28,961 --> 00:00:30,795 I've wanted to propose to her 16 00:00:30,863 --> 00:00:32,263 for a while now. 17 00:00:32,331 --> 00:00:33,998 Go propose to that girl, 18 00:00:34,066 --> 00:00:35,333 Pearson. 19 00:00:40,272 --> 00:00:41,873 - Hey, man. - Hey. 20 00:00:41,941 --> 00:00:44,008 Hey, so I got the hot chocolate. 21 00:00:44,076 --> 00:00:45,385 - Uh-huh. - I got the corn syrup 22 00:00:45,409 --> 00:00:46,927 for the candied apples. 23 00:00:46,937 --> 00:00:49,805 And I bought every box of string lights 24 00:00:49,873 --> 00:00:52,508 - they had at the hardware store. - That's my guy. 25 00:00:52,576 --> 00:00:54,677 Hey, do me a favor and look at this. 26 00:00:54,745 --> 00:00:56,412 I mean, did I get these letters even? 27 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,582 Yeah. You spelled "carnival" wrong. 28 00:00:59,650 --> 00:01:01,017 I... 29 00:01:01,084 --> 00:01:03,319 I'm kidding. No. No, it looks great, man. 30 00:01:03,387 --> 00:01:05,555 Great's not good enough, Miguel. 31 00:01:05,622 --> 00:01:07,023 I need this proposal to be perfect. 32 00:01:07,090 --> 00:01:08,668 Jack, you are recreating your first date 33 00:01:08,692 --> 00:01:10,092 with Rebecca in her apartment. 34 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:11,538 It's exactly the kind of romantic gesture 35 00:01:11,562 --> 00:01:13,496 that makes other guys hate you. 36 00:01:13,564 --> 00:01:15,731 - Come on. Other guys don't hate me. - Yeah, they do. 37 00:01:15,799 --> 00:01:17,900 Anyways, did, uh, you ever end up 38 00:01:17,968 --> 00:01:19,235 getting ahold of Rebecca's dad? 39 00:01:19,303 --> 00:01:21,504 No. Never called me back. 40 00:01:21,572 --> 00:01:24,407 Finally spelled it out to his secretary this morning. 41 00:01:24,474 --> 00:01:26,876 "Hey, Darcy, it's Jack Pearson calling again. 42 00:01:26,944 --> 00:01:28,911 Could please let Mr. Malone know 43 00:01:28,979 --> 00:01:31,747 the guy he hates is planning on asking his daughter 44 00:01:31,815 --> 00:01:34,350 to marry him tonight and just wants his blessing?" 45 00:01:34,418 --> 00:01:36,252 Never called me back. 46 00:01:36,320 --> 00:01:38,988 Probably thinks I'm still just a drunken kid 47 00:01:39,056 --> 00:01:40,990 who can't hit a golf ball to save his life. 48 00:01:41,058 --> 00:01:42,892 Well, you can't hit a golf ball. 49 00:01:42,960 --> 00:01:45,127 Hey, you know what? 50 00:01:45,195 --> 00:01:46,896 You can't hit a golf ball. 51 00:02:03,747 --> 00:02:07,016 It's official: your engagement is national news. 52 00:02:07,084 --> 00:02:08,075 - Mm. - And your wedding is going 53 00:02:08,085 --> 00:02:09,093 to make headlines, too, 54 00:02:09,103 --> 00:02:10,261 because I pulled some strings 55 00:02:10,271 --> 00:02:12,121 and locked in the Villas at Solstice Cove. 56 00:02:12,189 --> 00:02:14,256 Manny say what? 57 00:02:14,324 --> 00:02:16,659 That just came out. I can't control it sometimes. 58 00:02:16,727 --> 00:02:18,294 There's nothing I can do about it. 59 00:02:18,362 --> 00:02:20,329 This is what we wanted. This is our first choice. 60 00:02:20,397 --> 00:02:23,566 - Yeah. Yeah. - It's great, yeah? 61 00:02:23,634 --> 00:02:25,001 What? What's wrong? 62 00:02:25,068 --> 00:02:26,802 No. No, no, nothing. 63 00:02:26,870 --> 00:02:30,139 It's just, um, I-I didn't think we'd be able to book it. 64 00:02:30,207 --> 00:02:31,674 - Oh. - You know, it's-it's perfect. 65 00:02:31,742 --> 00:02:33,709 It's big and beautiful and airy. 66 00:02:33,777 --> 00:02:35,845 - Yeah. - A dream pandemic venue. 67 00:02:35,912 --> 00:02:37,713 - Mm. - Mrs. Manny say what? 68 00:02:37,781 --> 00:02:39,115 There she is. 69 00:02:39,182 --> 00:02:41,250 All right. 70 00:02:41,318 --> 00:02:43,185 You know, I've never been invited to a wedding. 71 00:02:43,253 --> 00:02:44,620 Crashed one once. 72 00:02:44,688 --> 00:02:47,623 Came across this outdoor barbecue. 73 00:02:47,691 --> 00:02:50,960 Biggest heap of mac and cheese you ever saw. 74 00:02:51,028 --> 00:02:52,461 That bride was pissed. 75 00:02:52,529 --> 00:02:54,797 Speaking of invites, 76 00:02:54,865 --> 00:02:56,776 I need guest lists and wedding party names, like, yesterday. 77 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,869 Yeah, no. It's-it's not gonna be a big list. It'll be small. 78 00:02:59,936 --> 00:03:02,371 We're keeping it intimate. You know, just the closest 79 00:03:02,439 --> 00:03:04,217 - family and friends is all. - Yeah, the only person 80 00:03:04,241 --> 00:03:06,175 in my wedding party will be Kevin's sister Kate. 81 00:03:06,243 --> 00:03:09,478 I asked her yesterday. We screamed, we cried, 82 00:03:09,546 --> 00:03:11,447 we sang "We Are Family" by Sister Sledge. 83 00:03:11,515 --> 00:03:12,982 It was... it was beautiful. 84 00:03:13,050 --> 00:03:14,817 And you, Kevin? 85 00:03:14,885 --> 00:03:16,719 Oh, right. Uh, well, 86 00:03:16,787 --> 00:03:18,721 my best man will obviously be my brother. 87 00:03:18,789 --> 00:03:22,391 And when I ask him, I'm sure it will be equally beautiful. 88 00:03:22,459 --> 00:03:23,826 You haven't talked to him yet? 89 00:03:25,462 --> 00:03:27,863 I mean, I, you know, I-I want to... 90 00:03:27,931 --> 00:03:31,200 No. I just... I want to make sure I say it the right way. 91 00:03:31,268 --> 00:03:32,679 - You should just ask him. - Yeah, I will. 92 00:03:32,703 --> 00:03:33,602 'Cause you guys are in a good place now. 93 00:03:33,670 --> 00:03:34,570 Yeah, yeah. No, I will. 94 00:03:34,638 --> 00:03:36,639 I just, you know, I will. 95 00:03:36,707 --> 00:03:39,625 Okay, let's talk rehearsal dinner. Who's hosting? 96 00:03:39,635 --> 00:03:41,644 That would be my mom and her husband Miguel. 97 00:03:41,712 --> 00:03:43,389 - Mm. - They just got back to L.A. yesterday, 98 00:03:43,413 --> 00:03:46,382 - both fully vaccinated. - Miguel, huh? 99 00:03:46,450 --> 00:03:47,917 You know, he's the guy who's, uh, 100 00:03:47,984 --> 00:03:49,518 banging my brother's wife, right? 101 00:03:51,121 --> 00:03:54,523 Well, I call her "Mom", but-but yeah. 102 00:03:54,591 --> 00:03:56,726 Um, I think he prefers 103 00:03:56,793 --> 00:03:58,461 "Rebecca's husband for over a decade", 104 00:03:58,528 --> 00:04:00,062 but-but yeah, that Miguel. 105 00:04:00,130 --> 00:04:03,566 You know, um, I'd like to help out 106 00:04:03,633 --> 00:04:06,235 with the rehearsal dinner, whatever the hell that is. 107 00:04:06,303 --> 00:04:07,937 - Oh. - Are you... are you serious? 108 00:04:08,004 --> 00:04:10,039 Yeah. Why not? Any schmuck who's read a menu 109 00:04:10,107 --> 00:04:12,007 can pick out food for dinner, right? 110 00:04:12,075 --> 00:04:15,077 Yeah. I guess so. Okay, I'll tell Miguel. He'll be thrilled. 111 00:04:15,145 --> 00:04:17,513 - Thank you. - Good. 112 00:04:17,581 --> 00:04:20,149 Fabulous. And I need the guest list ASAP. 113 00:04:20,217 --> 00:04:22,261 - And you'll please call your brother? - Mm. 114 00:04:22,285 --> 00:04:23,805 I need his suit size. What's his name? 115 00:04:23,854 --> 00:04:25,654 Uh, Randall Pearson. 116 00:04:25,722 --> 00:04:28,891 I can't believe they went with "Mevin" over "Kadison". 117 00:04:28,959 --> 00:04:31,460 Let me see. 118 00:04:31,528 --> 00:04:34,330 I can't believe Bruno Mars still picks up his dry cleaning 119 00:04:34,397 --> 00:04:36,599 like the rest of us. Holy cow. 120 00:04:36,666 --> 00:04:38,000 - Hey. - Mm. 121 00:04:38,068 --> 00:04:39,335 It's a big day today, baby. 122 00:04:39,402 --> 00:04:41,237 Group therapy. 123 00:04:41,304 --> 00:04:43,372 All right, remember, it's your first day. 124 00:04:43,440 --> 00:04:45,374 - You know, just ease into it. - Mm-hmm. 125 00:04:45,442 --> 00:04:47,176 You know, let other people talk. 126 00:04:47,244 --> 00:04:49,211 I will try, Beth. I will. 127 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:50,346 But I am an orator. 128 00:04:50,413 --> 00:04:52,414 I orate. 129 00:04:52,482 --> 00:04:54,183 How you doing? 130 00:04:54,251 --> 00:04:55,592 - Mm. - You feeling okay 131 00:04:55,602 --> 00:04:57,296 about Tess having Alex over for the first time? 132 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:58,921 Oh, hell yeah, I feel okay! 133 00:04:58,989 --> 00:05:01,757 Look, I got sodas chilling in the fridge, 134 00:05:01,825 --> 00:05:05,661 two dozen homemade jalapeño poppers locked and loaded. 135 00:05:05,729 --> 00:05:08,264 I mean, I just want them to feel like 136 00:05:08,331 --> 00:05:10,599 they are totally welcome here. 137 00:05:10,667 --> 00:05:13,235 You're practicing Alex's gender pronouns right now, aren't you? 138 00:05:13,303 --> 00:05:15,281 Hell yeah. You know Tess is mean when you get those wrong. 139 00:05:15,305 --> 00:05:16,675 - I do. - Ooh, you could always 140 00:05:16,699 --> 00:05:17,773 call on me for backup. 141 00:05:17,841 --> 00:05:19,875 My non-binary pronoun use is impeccable. 142 00:05:19,943 --> 00:05:21,410 Ooh. 143 00:05:21,478 --> 00:05:23,512 - Mm. - Huh. 144 00:05:23,580 --> 00:05:26,215 Looks like J.Lo drinks Frappuccino, just like me. 145 00:05:27,317 --> 00:05:29,819 Yeah. Just like J.Lo. 146 00:05:30,987 --> 00:05:33,489 Look at this. Your Uncle Kevin 147 00:05:33,557 --> 00:05:36,192 and future Aunt Madison on the cover of a magazine. 148 00:05:36,259 --> 00:05:38,194 And, wow. Look at that rock. 149 00:05:38,261 --> 00:05:41,163 Can you say "herniated disc"? 150 00:05:41,231 --> 00:05:44,400 - Okay. - Oh. Wow. 151 00:05:44,467 --> 00:05:46,936 Turns out, I'm hot for teacher. 152 00:05:47,003 --> 00:05:48,671 - Yeah. - I'm nervous. 153 00:05:48,738 --> 00:05:52,474 Kate, a job where you help blind youth 154 00:05:52,542 --> 00:05:55,444 discover their inner musician is tailor-made for you. 155 00:05:55,512 --> 00:05:57,947 Thank you for being such a trooper 156 00:05:58,014 --> 00:05:59,548 on this whole transition. 157 00:05:59,616 --> 00:06:01,550 Oh, I-I appreciate the euphemism, 158 00:06:01,618 --> 00:06:04,887 but I prefer, uh, "forced early retirement without benefits". 159 00:06:04,955 --> 00:06:06,622 Not funny. 160 00:06:06,690 --> 00:06:08,390 I'm kidding. I'm kidding. 161 00:06:08,458 --> 00:06:10,292 I actually really enjoy all of this extra time 162 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:12,761 with our insanely cute children 163 00:06:12,829 --> 00:06:14,563 before I move on to the next thing. 164 00:06:14,631 --> 00:06:17,633 Which I think is gonna be soon, because, not to brag, 165 00:06:17,701 --> 00:06:21,070 but in the tech world, I'm kind of a catch. 166 00:06:21,137 --> 00:06:23,472 You're a catch in any world. 167 00:06:23,540 --> 00:06:25,274 Mm. 168 00:06:25,342 --> 00:06:26,675 All right. 169 00:06:26,743 --> 00:06:30,079 I love you. I love you. 170 00:06:30,146 --> 00:06:32,314 I miss you already. 171 00:06:32,382 --> 00:06:34,750 Text me updates about the kids, please. 172 00:06:36,453 --> 00:06:37,920 ♪ I want to rock! ♪ 173 00:06:37,988 --> 00:06:40,022 - No. - No. Yeah. 174 00:06:45,194 --> 00:06:48,095 Wow. 175 00:06:48,105 --> 00:06:49,945 - Yeah. - This place is really coming together. 176 00:06:50,007 --> 00:06:53,142 - Oh, hey. - Yeah? Hey, you know what? 177 00:06:53,210 --> 00:06:55,812 We should start a side hustle throwing indoor carnivals. 178 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,564 - Maybe. - Hey, so, okay, 179 00:06:58,574 --> 00:07:01,076 when are we gonna start, uh, practicing the proposal? 180 00:07:01,144 --> 00:07:03,464 Oh, I don't need to practice. I... I got it all right here. 181 00:07:03,513 --> 00:07:05,113 - What? Jack. - Yeah. 182 00:07:05,181 --> 00:07:08,483 You can't just propose to someone like Rebecca 183 00:07:08,551 --> 00:07:09,618 without practicing first. 184 00:07:09,686 --> 00:07:10,763 - You want to practice? - Yeah. 185 00:07:10,787 --> 00:07:13,021 All right, we'll practice. 186 00:07:13,089 --> 00:07:15,023 This is gonna be like an episode of I Love Lucy. 187 00:07:15,091 --> 00:07:16,958 - Okay. Come on, let's go. - Um... 188 00:07:18,828 --> 00:07:21,897 - Rebecca... - Wait. Do you have the ring? 189 00:07:21,964 --> 00:07:23,776 You want to prac... you want me to practice with the ring? 190 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:25,133 Yeah, Jack. It's your main prop. 191 00:07:27,203 --> 00:07:29,304 - Okay. - Okay. Um... 192 00:07:30,773 --> 00:07:32,174 Rebecca... 193 00:07:32,241 --> 00:07:33,575 - Wait. - What? 194 00:07:33,643 --> 00:07:35,163 Aren't you gonna get down on one knee? 195 00:07:36,612 --> 00:07:38,246 You want the whole thing. 196 00:07:38,314 --> 00:07:40,215 This is serious, Jack. 197 00:07:41,784 --> 00:07:43,185 Okay. 198 00:07:45,488 --> 00:07:49,257 Uh, um, Rebecca? 199 00:07:49,325 --> 00:07:50,325 Yes, Jack. 200 00:07:54,997 --> 00:07:58,867 Our first date was a disaster. 201 00:07:58,935 --> 00:08:02,037 I could barely afford the tickets for the carnival. 202 00:08:02,105 --> 00:08:04,039 And when it started to rain, I was afraid 203 00:08:04,107 --> 00:08:05,941 to spend my last two bucks on an umbrella. 204 00:08:06,008 --> 00:08:07,920 Jack, she was there. Come on. Let's just get to the meat 205 00:08:07,944 --> 00:08:09,288 - and potatoes of this. - Okay, yeah, yeah, got it. I... 206 00:08:09,312 --> 00:08:10,589 - Yeah, the meat... - Okay, okay, no, no, no. 207 00:08:10,613 --> 00:08:11,890 I got it. I got it. I got it. Okay. 208 00:08:11,914 --> 00:08:16,685 Bec, for reasons I will never know, 209 00:08:16,753 --> 00:08:19,955 at the end of the night, you kissed me. 210 00:08:20,022 --> 00:08:22,290 And I decided right in that moment 211 00:08:22,358 --> 00:08:25,193 that I would spend the rest of my life making sure 212 00:08:25,261 --> 00:08:27,562 you never had to stand in the rain again. 213 00:08:27,630 --> 00:08:30,665 So what do you say? 214 00:08:31,801 --> 00:08:34,469 Rebecca, will...? Wait. 215 00:08:34,537 --> 00:08:36,315 - Hold-hold on a second. - What's happening now? 216 00:08:36,339 --> 00:08:39,007 Uh... it's a key thing. 217 00:08:39,075 --> 00:08:41,009 Key to it. 218 00:08:45,481 --> 00:08:48,216 Rebecca Malone, 219 00:08:48,284 --> 00:08:52,287 will you stand under this umbrella with me? 220 00:08:52,355 --> 00:08:54,856 Yes. 221 00:08:57,260 --> 00:08:59,861 Mm. 222 00:08:59,929 --> 00:09:01,596 Okay. 223 00:09:01,664 --> 00:09:03,432 So, what do you think? 224 00:09:03,499 --> 00:09:06,701 - Hmm. - "Hmm" what? 225 00:09:06,769 --> 00:09:09,271 The ring feels kind of stuck. 226 00:09:09,338 --> 00:09:11,740 What? What do you mean, the ring is stuck? 227 00:09:11,808 --> 00:09:13,341 It's-it's stuck. 228 00:09:13,409 --> 00:09:15,577 The ring is... What do you mean, the ring is...? 229 00:09:15,645 --> 00:09:16,965 - Ow! Oh, it's pinching. - Okay... 230 00:09:17,013 --> 00:09:18,580 Just stop moving! 231 00:09:18,648 --> 00:09:20,368 Why did you make me use the real thing, huh? 232 00:09:20,416 --> 00:09:22,050 Why did you put it all the way on there? 233 00:09:22,118 --> 00:09:23,495 I didn't know you had a huge knuckle. 234 00:09:23,519 --> 00:09:25,353 S... You can stop right there. Ow! 235 00:09:25,421 --> 00:09:26,765 - Okay. - You know what? This actually happened 236 00:09:26,789 --> 00:09:28,290 - on I Love Lucy. - Did it? 237 00:09:28,357 --> 00:09:29,735 - Yeah. - Here. Just keep... keep it elevated. 238 00:09:29,759 --> 00:09:31,236 - Keep it elevated. - What's that gonna do? 239 00:09:31,260 --> 00:09:32,694 Blood drains! 240 00:09:32,762 --> 00:09:35,397 It was a very good proposal, Jack. 241 00:09:35,465 --> 00:09:38,567 I would have said yes. 242 00:09:38,634 --> 00:09:41,069 All right. So, Madison and the babies are 243 00:09:41,137 --> 00:09:42,871 at the park with Toby, which is great, 244 00:09:42,939 --> 00:09:44,316 'cause it gives us a couple hours to wedding-plan 245 00:09:44,340 --> 00:09:46,708 without being crapped on or spit up on. 246 00:09:46,776 --> 00:09:48,220 Well, I hope your fiancée works that out 247 00:09:48,244 --> 00:09:49,564 before you marry her. 248 00:09:49,612 --> 00:09:52,147 All right, first order of business is, uh, 249 00:09:52,215 --> 00:09:55,083 I got to e-mail Randall and ask him to be my best man. 250 00:09:55,151 --> 00:09:57,619 E-mail him? Really? 251 00:09:57,687 --> 00:09:59,721 Doesn't that seem a little impersonal? 252 00:09:59,789 --> 00:10:01,323 Just-just call him. 253 00:10:01,390 --> 00:10:03,258 Yeah. You know, I-I thought... I... 254 00:10:03,326 --> 00:10:04,290 I want to get the words right, 255 00:10:04,314 --> 00:10:05,376 you know? Mm... 256 00:10:05,386 --> 00:10:07,062 Hey, guys. 257 00:10:07,129 --> 00:10:09,931 - Have no fear. M.C. Rivas is here. - Nice. 258 00:10:09,999 --> 00:10:12,267 Hey, Miguel, Uncle Nicky's excited 259 00:10:12,335 --> 00:10:14,215 to dive into rehearsal dinner planning with you, 260 00:10:14,270 --> 00:10:16,271 so just ignore me. 261 00:10:16,339 --> 00:10:20,041 Nicky, I am thrilled to have you aboard the planning committee. 262 00:10:20,109 --> 00:10:21,543 Dinner. 263 00:10:21,611 --> 00:10:23,245 I'm thinking small plates. 264 00:10:23,312 --> 00:10:25,447 Really? 265 00:10:25,515 --> 00:10:27,382 Won't that be hard to fit the food on? 266 00:10:27,450 --> 00:10:29,384 Oh, uh, no. The... 267 00:10:29,452 --> 00:10:32,621 So, the plates... they're not really small. 268 00:10:32,688 --> 00:10:34,956 Uh, it's basically a bunch of appetizers 269 00:10:35,024 --> 00:10:36,992 that add up to a full meal. 270 00:10:37,059 --> 00:10:38,470 And that way, people can help themselves 271 00:10:38,494 --> 00:10:40,539 - to as much as they want. - Well, you're no stranger 272 00:10:40,563 --> 00:10:41,673 to helping yourself to whatever you want. 273 00:10:41,697 --> 00:10:43,665 What was that? 274 00:10:43,733 --> 00:10:46,368 Hmm? What about pigs in a blanket? 275 00:10:46,435 --> 00:10:48,303 I do love pigs in a blanket, 276 00:10:48,371 --> 00:10:49,971 but I was thinking salmon crostini, 277 00:10:50,039 --> 00:10:52,007 bacon-wrapped dates and... 278 00:10:52,074 --> 00:10:53,234 Bruschetta. 279 00:10:54,243 --> 00:10:55,677 Hey, kid. 280 00:10:55,745 --> 00:10:57,646 Hey! Kid! 281 00:10:57,713 --> 00:10:58,980 Huh? 282 00:10:59,048 --> 00:11:00,815 Do you want small, fancy food 283 00:11:00,883 --> 00:11:02,317 or regular-sized, good food? 284 00:11:05,621 --> 00:11:08,056 Hey, I... You know, it's up to you guys. 285 00:11:08,124 --> 00:11:10,559 So, I don't think we need anything crusty. 286 00:11:10,626 --> 00:11:13,128 - Cr... Uh, crus... It's not crusty. - No. 287 00:11:13,195 --> 00:11:14,540 - It's crostini. It's... - You know, 288 00:11:14,564 --> 00:11:16,431 it doesn't sound good at all. 289 00:11:16,499 --> 00:11:18,343 It's got salm... Look, let me show you a picture of it. 290 00:11:18,367 --> 00:11:20,669 Maybe you'll-you'll get it a little. S-See how... 291 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:26,107 Oh. Hi! 292 00:11:26,175 --> 00:11:27,642 Hey, uh, can I help you with that? 293 00:11:27,710 --> 00:11:30,512 No. It's fine. I'm, uh, already done. 294 00:11:30,580 --> 00:11:32,647 You know, I like to get here an hour early, 295 00:11:32,715 --> 00:11:34,816 settle in. 296 00:11:34,884 --> 00:11:36,952 I see you're more of a... 297 00:11:37,019 --> 00:11:39,254 - "minute to spare" type of person. - Sorry. 298 00:11:39,322 --> 00:11:41,222 I just... It was hard for me to tear myself away 299 00:11:41,290 --> 00:11:44,259 from my kids this morning, but I'm sure it'll get easier. 300 00:11:44,327 --> 00:11:47,195 Right? And I'm really excited to be working with you. 301 00:11:47,263 --> 00:11:49,531 This job is a dream, and I still cannot believe 302 00:11:49,599 --> 00:11:52,434 - I got it. - Yeah. 303 00:11:56,973 --> 00:11:58,216 All right! Good morning, drummers. 304 00:11:58,240 --> 00:11:59,341 Good morning, good morning. 305 00:12:01,744 --> 00:12:03,244 Mom, do you know the difference 306 00:12:03,312 --> 00:12:06,281 between agender and bi-gender? 307 00:12:06,349 --> 00:12:08,850 Bethany, Alex is a teenager, 308 00:12:08,918 --> 00:12:11,152 not the gender police. Relax. 309 00:12:11,220 --> 00:12:14,356 And yes, I do. 310 00:12:14,423 --> 00:12:17,258 I'm a woman of the times. 311 00:12:25,434 --> 00:12:27,802 - Hey. - Hi. 312 00:12:30,473 --> 00:12:33,274 Mom, Mama C, 313 00:12:33,342 --> 00:12:34,843 - this is Alex. - Hi. 314 00:12:34,910 --> 00:12:36,444 Uh, it's so nice to meet you guys. 315 00:12:36,512 --> 00:12:38,613 Great to meet you, Alex. Popper? 316 00:12:38,681 --> 00:12:40,626 - Ooh, yes, please. - Uh, we'll eat them upstairs. 317 00:12:40,650 --> 00:12:42,450 - We need to go study. - All right. 318 00:12:45,655 --> 00:12:48,456 I hope they leave us some poppers. 319 00:12:54,196 --> 00:12:57,065 Welcome, everyone. Welcome, welcome. 320 00:12:57,133 --> 00:13:00,468 So, for those of you who do not know me, I'm Jase. 321 00:13:00,536 --> 00:13:02,704 And I just want to say this up front: 322 00:13:02,772 --> 00:13:06,041 this is a transracial adoptee support group. 323 00:13:06,108 --> 00:13:09,077 This is not the Harry Potter Alliance. 324 00:13:09,145 --> 00:13:10,879 Last month there was a little mix-up, 325 00:13:10,946 --> 00:13:13,982 and we had a bunch of very disappointed dudes 326 00:13:14,050 --> 00:13:16,117 with wands. 327 00:13:16,185 --> 00:13:17,986 Nothing wrong with that. 328 00:13:18,054 --> 00:13:21,456 So, we've got, uh, two new additions today, right? 329 00:13:21,524 --> 00:13:23,425 Uh, yeah. 330 00:13:23,492 --> 00:13:25,393 Uh, Randall Pearson. 331 00:13:25,461 --> 00:13:27,062 Thrilled to be here. 332 00:13:27,129 --> 00:13:30,098 Uh, Andrew Levin. Nice to meet you all. 333 00:13:30,166 --> 00:13:33,034 So, which one of you want to plunge in into the deep end 334 00:13:33,102 --> 00:13:34,869 and tell us about yourselves? 335 00:13:34,937 --> 00:13:37,272 Uh, okay. Sure. 336 00:13:37,339 --> 00:13:39,407 Um... I mean, 337 00:13:39,475 --> 00:13:41,235 - if you don't mind? - No, please. Go for it. 338 00:13:42,111 --> 00:13:43,511 Uh... 339 00:13:43,579 --> 00:13:45,180 Where do I start? Um, 340 00:13:45,247 --> 00:13:48,450 I grew up in Newton, Massachusetts. 341 00:13:48,517 --> 00:13:50,485 Super white, 342 00:13:50,553 --> 00:13:52,954 upper-middle-class, Jewish parents. 343 00:13:53,022 --> 00:13:55,190 It was actually shortly after my bar mitzvah 344 00:13:55,257 --> 00:13:57,459 that my depression started. 345 00:13:57,526 --> 00:14:01,696 Something about staring out at all those faces. 346 00:14:01,764 --> 00:14:04,532 A whole congregation of people that looked nothing like me. 347 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:06,868 It shook me. 348 00:14:06,936 --> 00:14:10,672 Anyway, I've gotten it mostly under control, but... 349 00:14:10,740 --> 00:14:13,708 I have this need to keep proving myself 350 00:14:13,776 --> 00:14:15,844 that never goes away. 351 00:14:18,547 --> 00:14:21,916 So, here I am. 352 00:14:23,552 --> 00:14:25,386 Thank you for sharing, Andrew. 353 00:14:26,622 --> 00:14:28,790 The mailman was the first Black man 354 00:14:28,858 --> 00:14:30,158 I saw in our neighborhood. 355 00:14:30,226 --> 00:14:32,460 And I used to think, 356 00:14:32,528 --> 00:14:35,163 "Is that him? 357 00:14:35,231 --> 00:14:36,831 Is that my real father?" 358 00:14:36,899 --> 00:14:40,201 At night, I would pray for my birth mother to find me. 359 00:14:40,269 --> 00:14:43,204 But then my adopted mom would come tuck me in, 360 00:14:43,272 --> 00:14:44,939 and... 361 00:14:45,007 --> 00:14:46,875 You know, I would feel so guilty. 362 00:14:49,678 --> 00:14:51,379 Randall. 363 00:14:53,516 --> 00:14:55,850 Anything you want to share, man? 364 00:15:00,556 --> 00:15:03,024 I'm good. I just, uh... 365 00:15:03,092 --> 00:15:05,794 Would it be all right if I just kept listening for a while? 366 00:15:05,861 --> 00:15:07,428 Absolutely, man. 367 00:15:07,496 --> 00:15:09,564 Absolutely. 368 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:16,542 Maybe if we grease it, you know, like when a bolt gets stuck? 369 00:15:16,552 --> 00:15:17,552 Oh, that's a good idea. 370 00:15:17,619 --> 00:15:19,087 - Right? - Yeah. 371 00:15:19,154 --> 00:15:22,006 You know, this is not how I imagined my day going. 372 00:15:22,016 --> 00:15:23,090 Yeah. 373 00:15:24,719 --> 00:15:26,353 Hey, I thought you said that Rebecca 374 00:15:26,420 --> 00:15:27,954 wasn't gonna be home for two hours. 375 00:15:28,022 --> 00:15:29,666 It's not Rebecca. I mean, this is her house. 376 00:15:29,690 --> 00:15:31,458 She'd just walk in. 377 00:15:33,861 --> 00:15:35,395 Mr. Malone. 378 00:15:36,497 --> 00:15:37,964 Good to see you. 379 00:15:39,133 --> 00:15:40,233 So, I was thinking 380 00:15:40,301 --> 00:15:42,776 that after the cocktail hour, 381 00:15:42,786 --> 00:15:44,687 I will give my toast. 382 00:15:44,755 --> 00:15:47,623 Wait. You're-you're gonna give a toast? 383 00:15:47,691 --> 00:15:49,792 Of course. Yeah, I'm-I'm hosting. 384 00:15:49,860 --> 00:15:52,528 No, we're co-hosting. 385 00:15:52,596 --> 00:15:55,364 Oh, really? Uh, how much money are you kicking in 386 00:15:55,432 --> 00:15:58,134 to pay for co-hosting this dinner? 387 00:16:00,537 --> 00:16:03,305 I'm sorry. 388 00:16:03,373 --> 00:16:07,143 It's just that all day, you have been shooting down 389 00:16:07,210 --> 00:16:09,211 pretty much every idea that I've had, 390 00:16:09,279 --> 00:16:12,081 and it's just starting to wear down on me. 391 00:16:12,149 --> 00:16:13,474 No, no, it's kind of like the way you wore down 392 00:16:13,484 --> 00:16:15,818 my brother's wife to get her to marry you. 393 00:16:19,289 --> 00:16:20,656 Excuse me? 394 00:16:20,724 --> 00:16:21,924 Nicky, what the hell, man? 395 00:16:21,992 --> 00:16:23,392 Oh, forget it. 396 00:16:23,460 --> 00:16:25,261 No. I don't want to forget it. 397 00:16:25,328 --> 00:16:27,063 Go ahead. 398 00:16:27,130 --> 00:16:28,831 We're both grown men. 399 00:16:28,899 --> 00:16:30,833 Say what you're gonna say. 400 00:16:32,002 --> 00:16:34,370 It just doesn't sit with me, you know? 401 00:16:34,438 --> 00:16:36,305 I mean, my brother cuts me out of his life 402 00:16:36,373 --> 00:16:38,774 and replaces me with you, 403 00:16:38,842 --> 00:16:40,109 and then you come along, 404 00:16:40,177 --> 00:16:41,844 and you swoop in, and you marry his wife. 405 00:16:48,251 --> 00:16:50,186 "Swooped in"? 406 00:16:51,655 --> 00:16:55,558 I married Rebecca 13 years after Jack died. 407 00:16:56,660 --> 00:16:58,761 And if you're wondering whether or not 408 00:16:58,829 --> 00:17:01,330 I spend a few minutes every day 409 00:17:01,398 --> 00:17:04,700 wondering what Jack might think about that, 410 00:17:04,768 --> 00:17:06,802 well, then, the answer is yes. 411 00:17:06,870 --> 00:17:08,304 I do. 412 00:17:09,406 --> 00:17:12,508 There's only one person that I owe an explanation to, 413 00:17:12,576 --> 00:17:16,979 and that is the one person that I can never give one to. 414 00:17:18,215 --> 00:17:21,484 I certainly don't owe one to you. 415 00:17:30,660 --> 00:17:33,262 So, I have been to every park 416 00:17:33,330 --> 00:17:37,666 in a five-mile radius, and this one is the best. 417 00:17:39,035 --> 00:17:40,870 Aw, man, Patrick isn't here. 418 00:17:40,937 --> 00:17:43,572 He's my favorite of the stay-at-home dads. 419 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:45,174 That's too bad. 420 00:17:45,242 --> 00:17:47,042 How's wedding planning going? 421 00:17:47,110 --> 00:17:50,279 Oh, fine. 422 00:17:50,347 --> 00:17:53,616 She said, staring sadly off into the distance. 423 00:17:53,683 --> 00:17:56,352 Just so you know, Madison, 424 00:17:56,419 --> 00:17:58,854 I promise, whatever you say on the playground 425 00:17:58,922 --> 00:18:00,322 stays on the playground, 426 00:18:00,390 --> 00:18:01,924 as the saying goes. 427 00:18:01,992 --> 00:18:04,927 Ugh. It's stupid. It's just, um... 428 00:18:06,062 --> 00:18:07,696 We picked a venue. 429 00:18:07,764 --> 00:18:09,732 It's beautiful. 430 00:18:09,799 --> 00:18:12,835 But, um, between us, 431 00:18:12,903 --> 00:18:14,737 it's not where I want to get married. 432 00:18:14,804 --> 00:18:17,473 Hmm. What did Kevin say? 433 00:18:19,176 --> 00:18:21,143 Ah, you haven't told him. Okay. 434 00:18:21,211 --> 00:18:25,414 Sometimes I have a hard time saying what I want. 435 00:18:25,482 --> 00:18:28,717 Especially with, um... men. 436 00:18:28,785 --> 00:18:30,286 Mm-hmm. 437 00:18:30,353 --> 00:18:32,054 Also women. 438 00:18:32,122 --> 00:18:34,790 A little bit with children. 439 00:18:37,327 --> 00:18:39,228 I think I'm having a... 440 00:18:39,296 --> 00:18:40,629 I'm having a harder time 441 00:18:40,697 --> 00:18:42,498 with this whole "stay-at-home dad" thing. 442 00:18:42,566 --> 00:18:45,367 Much harder than I'm letting on to Kate. 443 00:18:46,036 --> 00:18:49,004 The thing is, I... I... I loved my job. 444 00:18:49,072 --> 00:18:51,774 And I loved getting dressed up for it. 445 00:18:51,841 --> 00:18:54,443 I loved making coffee to take to it. 446 00:18:54,511 --> 00:18:56,412 I loved doing it. You know, and I love my kids, 447 00:18:56,479 --> 00:18:58,814 but if I'm being honest... 448 00:18:58,882 --> 00:19:00,316 Hey. 449 00:19:00,383 --> 00:19:01,961 What you say at the playground stays at the playground. 450 00:19:01,985 --> 00:19:03,786 I love my kids, 451 00:19:03,853 --> 00:19:05,988 but I don't love spending ten hours a day with them. 452 00:19:06,056 --> 00:19:07,723 - Mm. - I didn't mean that. 453 00:19:07,791 --> 00:19:09,892 I didn't mean that. 454 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:11,460 I totally meant that. 455 00:19:11,528 --> 00:19:13,128 The couple of days that I've done it, 456 00:19:13,196 --> 00:19:17,900 time has moved very, very slowly. 457 00:19:20,203 --> 00:19:22,471 - Do you think I'm terrible? - No. 458 00:19:22,539 --> 00:19:25,074 - No, I-I think you're honest. - Yeah. 459 00:19:25,141 --> 00:19:26,709 Honest. 460 00:19:26,776 --> 00:19:30,112 Here at the Las Vegas of playgrounds. 461 00:19:32,215 --> 00:19:34,450 You should talk to her. 462 00:19:34,517 --> 00:19:36,952 You should talk to Kevin. 463 00:19:37,020 --> 00:19:39,255 - Puff? - Please. 464 00:19:39,322 --> 00:19:41,090 - Want one of these? - No. 465 00:19:41,157 --> 00:19:42,235 Want a cheese puff? 466 00:19:42,259 --> 00:19:43,603 No. No. 467 00:19:43,627 --> 00:19:45,327 No? Can I eat all of them? 468 00:19:45,395 --> 00:19:48,564 Hey. So, my next class starts in about two minutes. 469 00:19:48,632 --> 00:19:51,667 Listen, I'm sure that everything is fine 470 00:19:51,735 --> 00:19:53,746 and I'm just being crazy, but can you please just... 471 00:19:53,770 --> 00:19:55,890 just text me back, let me know that you guys are okay? 472 00:19:55,939 --> 00:19:57,373 Okay. 473 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,375 Okay, I love you. Bye. 474 00:20:02,379 --> 00:20:04,621 - Nice of you to join us. - Sorry. I... 475 00:20:04,631 --> 00:20:08,083 I don't need an apology. I need you to be present. 476 00:20:09,986 --> 00:20:11,387 I'm sorry. 477 00:20:11,454 --> 00:20:13,389 This is really important. Just one sec. 478 00:20:16,135 --> 00:20:17,136 _ 479 00:20:24,601 --> 00:20:26,201 What's wrong? 480 00:20:26,269 --> 00:20:27,853 Nothing. Nothing. 481 00:20:27,863 --> 00:20:29,531 It's just, I told my husband to text me 482 00:20:29,598 --> 00:20:31,398 to make sure that the kids were okay, 483 00:20:31,408 --> 00:20:33,509 and he hadn't, and then... I mean, he did. 484 00:20:33,577 --> 00:20:35,912 Sorry, has s... has something happened? 485 00:20:35,980 --> 00:20:38,414 No. No, they're fine. 486 00:20:38,482 --> 00:20:39,582 They're fine. 487 00:20:39,650 --> 00:20:40,783 I am a total mess. 488 00:20:40,851 --> 00:20:42,685 Um, it's just I haven't 489 00:20:42,753 --> 00:20:44,854 been away from both of them for this long. 490 00:20:47,558 --> 00:20:51,995 Kate, there were a lot of applicants for this job, 491 00:20:52,062 --> 00:20:54,631 and you were not at the top of my list. 492 00:20:54,698 --> 00:20:57,300 I mean, you have no teaching experience, 493 00:20:57,368 --> 00:21:00,670 and you don't have a degree in anything even adjacent to music. 494 00:21:00,738 --> 00:21:03,573 But Dr. Salzman loves your energy, 495 00:21:03,641 --> 00:21:05,942 so here we are. 496 00:21:07,044 --> 00:21:08,244 I get it. 497 00:21:08,312 --> 00:21:09,846 You love your kids. 498 00:21:09,914 --> 00:21:13,750 But if that means that you can't be present for my students, 499 00:21:13,817 --> 00:21:16,085 this isn't gonna work. 500 00:21:24,528 --> 00:21:26,763 It's awful quiet up there. 501 00:21:26,830 --> 00:21:30,900 Studying is an inherently quiet activity. 502 00:21:33,737 --> 00:21:35,838 Where are Tess and Alex? I wanted to say hi. 503 00:21:35,906 --> 00:21:38,074 - Oh, they're in her room. - For real? 504 00:21:38,142 --> 00:21:40,543 How come they're allowed to be in her room 505 00:21:40,611 --> 00:21:42,645 with the door closed, but Malik and I aren't? 506 00:21:42,713 --> 00:21:44,714 - Wait, hold up, the door's closed? - Mm-hmm. 507 00:21:44,782 --> 00:21:47,383 Well, that is definitely not allowed. 508 00:21:47,451 --> 00:21:50,150 I mean, I think... Right? 509 00:21:50,174 --> 00:21:52,088 You didn't discuss ground rules with Tess? 510 00:21:52,156 --> 00:21:55,825 I was very focused on the pronouns and the poppers. 511 00:21:55,893 --> 00:21:57,827 But, um... 512 00:21:57,895 --> 00:21:59,529 No, I think it's only fair 513 00:21:59,596 --> 00:22:02,865 that Tess should have to follow the same rules as Deja, so... 514 00:22:02,933 --> 00:22:04,567 I'm just... 515 00:22:04,635 --> 00:22:06,602 I'm just gonna go up and check on 'em. 516 00:22:06,670 --> 00:22:07,904 Bethany? 517 00:22:09,006 --> 00:22:11,240 Do tread lightly. 518 00:22:18,949 --> 00:22:21,150 Mom! 519 00:22:21,218 --> 00:22:22,785 What are you doing? 520 00:22:22,853 --> 00:22:24,698 I can't believe you just barged in here like that. 521 00:22:24,722 --> 00:22:27,023 I didn't barge in. I knocked. 522 00:22:27,091 --> 00:22:28,791 And I would like for the two of you 523 00:22:28,859 --> 00:22:30,637 to please relocate to the couch downstairs, okay? 524 00:22:30,661 --> 00:22:33,162 - What? Why? - Hey, no. 525 00:22:33,230 --> 00:22:34,831 It's fine. 526 00:22:35,966 --> 00:22:37,734 Okay. Fine. 527 00:22:37,801 --> 00:22:39,635 Sorry she's such a psycho. 528 00:22:40,771 --> 00:22:42,405 What did you call me? 529 00:22:42,473 --> 00:22:44,774 I'm sorry. 530 00:22:44,842 --> 00:22:46,853 You know what, Alex? I think maybe it's time for you 531 00:22:46,877 --> 00:22:49,197 to go home so I can talk to my daughter about her rudeness. 532 00:22:49,246 --> 00:22:50,880 Mom, please. 533 00:22:50,948 --> 00:22:52,882 Hey, no. It's okay. 534 00:22:52,950 --> 00:22:54,050 I'll see you soon. 535 00:22:58,122 --> 00:23:00,957 Tess, it's cool. 536 00:23:01,025 --> 00:23:02,058 Bye. 537 00:23:03,527 --> 00:23:05,428 That was mortifying. 538 00:23:05,496 --> 00:23:06,906 Maybe you should have thought about that 539 00:23:06,930 --> 00:23:08,364 before you called me out my name. 540 00:23:08,432 --> 00:23:09,909 Yeah, because that's what you're mad about. 541 00:23:09,933 --> 00:23:11,868 What is that supposed to mean? 542 00:23:13,003 --> 00:23:15,304 Nothing. 543 00:23:15,372 --> 00:23:16,873 Tess? 544 00:23:18,409 --> 00:23:21,477 I saw the look on your face when you opened the door. 545 00:23:21,545 --> 00:23:23,246 When you saw me with them. 546 00:23:23,313 --> 00:23:25,548 What look? I didn't give a look. 547 00:23:26,683 --> 00:23:28,551 Sure. 548 00:23:34,170 --> 00:23:36,037 Oh. Come in. 549 00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:45,561 This is, uh, 550 00:23:45,590 --> 00:23:47,247 this is my friend Miguel. 551 00:23:47,260 --> 00:23:48,494 - He, um... - Hey. 552 00:23:48,561 --> 00:23:51,597 He was helping me set up for a proposal tonight. 553 00:23:53,099 --> 00:23:55,167 Yeah, we had a little snafu with the ring. 554 00:23:55,235 --> 00:23:56,635 - Yeah. - Butter. 555 00:23:56,703 --> 00:23:59,338 Uh, so it's stuck. 556 00:23:59,406 --> 00:24:01,340 Good luck with that. 557 00:24:03,209 --> 00:24:07,203 Uh, look, Jack, I'm sorry it took me so long 558 00:24:07,213 --> 00:24:09,214 to get back to you today. 559 00:24:09,282 --> 00:24:10,482 Um... 560 00:24:10,550 --> 00:24:12,751 I was just gathering my thoughts 561 00:24:12,819 --> 00:24:16,555 or, as my wife would say, licking my wounds. 562 00:24:16,623 --> 00:24:17,658 Look... 563 00:24:18,550 --> 00:24:21,385 we both know Rebecca's already made up her mind about you, 564 00:24:21,453 --> 00:24:24,555 with or without my blessing. 565 00:24:24,623 --> 00:24:26,557 So I will... 566 00:24:26,625 --> 00:24:30,094 do the best I can to be civil to you 567 00:24:30,162 --> 00:24:33,130 and to tolerate this marriage. 568 00:24:33,198 --> 00:24:36,600 And I wanted to tell you that man-to-man. 569 00:24:36,668 --> 00:24:38,969 I promised my wife I would. 570 00:24:41,573 --> 00:24:44,208 So... 571 00:24:44,276 --> 00:24:47,678 now I'll let you get back to whatever this is. 572 00:24:47,746 --> 00:24:48,746 No. 573 00:24:51,149 --> 00:24:52,917 I'm sorry, sir, that's just... 574 00:24:52,984 --> 00:24:55,352 - that's not good enough. - You know, Miguel, let's just... 575 00:24:55,420 --> 00:24:59,023 Jack is not the kind of man that you "tolerate" 576 00:24:59,090 --> 00:25:00,424 being married to your daughter. 577 00:25:00,492 --> 00:25:02,059 Jack is the kind of man that you thank 578 00:25:02,127 --> 00:25:03,694 your lucky stars that your daughter 579 00:25:03,762 --> 00:25:05,796 was lucky enough to meet, let alone marry. 580 00:25:08,633 --> 00:25:11,769 Did you know that Jack and I met when he needed to buy a jacket 581 00:25:11,837 --> 00:25:13,237 just to get into your country club? 582 00:25:13,305 --> 00:25:15,806 I-I had never seen anybody 583 00:25:15,874 --> 00:25:17,641 look so serious about anything. 584 00:25:17,709 --> 00:25:20,878 I told him, "Just-just relax, it's, it's just a jacket", but 585 00:25:20,946 --> 00:25:23,147 he said, "It's not about the jacket, man. 586 00:25:23,215 --> 00:25:25,549 It's about the girl. 587 00:25:25,617 --> 00:25:27,585 Everything that I do 588 00:25:27,652 --> 00:25:30,955 from this moment forward is gonna be about the girl." 589 00:25:31,022 --> 00:25:33,324 And he meant it. 590 00:25:33,391 --> 00:25:34,992 It was about the girl 591 00:25:35,060 --> 00:25:37,361 when he worked his first construction job for free 592 00:25:37,429 --> 00:25:39,307 because the foreman couldn't afford to hire him. 593 00:25:39,331 --> 00:25:40,865 It was about the girl 594 00:25:40,932 --> 00:25:42,867 when he moved into a new apartment, 595 00:25:42,934 --> 00:25:45,636 a place Rebecca could be comfortable in. 596 00:25:45,704 --> 00:25:47,938 And it was about the girl 597 00:25:48,006 --> 00:25:50,207 every time he ate cup of noodles 598 00:25:50,275 --> 00:25:54,845 because he was scrimping and saving just to buy the... 599 00:25:54,913 --> 00:25:56,914 ring stuck on my pinky finger right now. 600 00:25:59,317 --> 00:26:02,553 That is the kind of man that your daughter is marrying. 601 00:26:02,621 --> 00:26:04,588 And if you can't find it within yourself 602 00:26:04,656 --> 00:26:06,190 to give him your blessing, 603 00:26:06,258 --> 00:26:08,125 well... 604 00:26:08,193 --> 00:26:09,470 that says a whole lot more about you 605 00:26:09,494 --> 00:26:11,462 than it does about him. 606 00:26:19,204 --> 00:26:21,105 Do you have any dental floss? 607 00:26:23,575 --> 00:26:25,776 Janet's fingers turn into sausage 608 00:26:25,844 --> 00:26:27,778 when she has too much salt. 609 00:26:27,846 --> 00:26:29,780 So... 610 00:26:29,848 --> 00:26:31,949 I know a trick to get that ring off. 611 00:26:34,152 --> 00:26:36,654 Yeah, let me just go check and see if sh... 612 00:26:36,721 --> 00:26:38,355 Hold that. 613 00:26:42,294 --> 00:26:43,594 Is-is it gonna hurt? 614 00:26:44,729 --> 00:26:45,829 Not much. 615 00:26:46,932 --> 00:26:48,666 Great. 616 00:26:50,769 --> 00:26:53,270 I've been thinking a lot about my ghost kingdom. 617 00:26:53,338 --> 00:26:56,440 Oh, for the new people, "ghost kingdom" is 618 00:26:56,508 --> 00:26:59,476 a term that we use for a hypothetical world 619 00:26:59,544 --> 00:27:03,547 where adoptees imagine who their birth parents might be. 620 00:27:03,615 --> 00:27:05,783 I used to imagine Rita Moreno was my mom. 621 00:27:05,850 --> 00:27:07,918 She's so funny. 622 00:27:07,986 --> 00:27:09,620 I thought we must be related. 623 00:27:09,688 --> 00:27:13,357 Of course, when I actually met my birth mother, she was 624 00:27:13,425 --> 00:27:14,758 nothing like Rita. 625 00:27:14,826 --> 00:27:16,393 We didn't have anything in common. 626 00:27:16,461 --> 00:27:17,761 Or maybe we did. 627 00:27:17,829 --> 00:27:19,430 It's hard to tell. 628 00:27:19,497 --> 00:27:22,433 I can't speak Spanish, and she can't speak English. 629 00:27:23,601 --> 00:27:27,571 Lately, I've been letting myself feel something 630 00:27:27,639 --> 00:27:31,275 I think I've known deep down for my entire life. 631 00:27:32,844 --> 00:27:35,446 I wish I'd never been adopted. 632 00:27:35,513 --> 00:27:39,016 I made the mistake of telling my adopted family 633 00:27:39,084 --> 00:27:40,684 how I've been feeling. 634 00:27:40,752 --> 00:27:42,553 I said, "I love you, 635 00:27:42,620 --> 00:27:45,823 but I wish I never knew you. 636 00:27:45,890 --> 00:27:48,859 Because if I could go back in time and choose, 637 00:27:48,927 --> 00:27:52,863 I'd choose to stay with my bipolar birth mom." 638 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,035 Now half of them won't talk to me. 639 00:28:03,375 --> 00:28:05,275 ♪ I'll never know ♪ 640 00:28:05,343 --> 00:28:08,812 ♪ What made it so exciting ♪ 641 00:28:10,081 --> 00:28:11,715 ♪ Why all at once ♪ 642 00:28:11,783 --> 00:28:15,052 ♪ My heart took flight. ♪ 643 00:28:16,121 --> 00:28:18,288 Okay. Amelia, 644 00:28:18,356 --> 00:28:20,591 at the top of the song, it says "allegro". 645 00:28:20,658 --> 00:28:21,825 What does that mean? 646 00:28:21,893 --> 00:28:23,394 Uh, brisk and lively. 647 00:28:23,461 --> 00:28:26,163 Good. Yeah, well... 648 00:28:26,231 --> 00:28:27,598 let's remember that 649 00:28:27,665 --> 00:28:28,565 and go again. 650 00:28:28,633 --> 00:28:29,733 Can I just say one thing? 651 00:28:29,801 --> 00:28:32,469 - Real quick. - Sure. 652 00:28:32,537 --> 00:28:34,571 So, Eliza, the woman who's singing, 653 00:28:34,639 --> 00:28:36,940 she was basically told her entire life 654 00:28:37,008 --> 00:28:38,075 that she was worthless. 655 00:28:38,143 --> 00:28:39,877 And now she's finally realizing 656 00:28:39,944 --> 00:28:42,780 that she is smart and she is a badass. 657 00:28:44,449 --> 00:28:46,750 I don't know if I'm allowed to say that. 658 00:28:46,818 --> 00:28:48,318 Sorry. But, on top of all that, 659 00:28:48,386 --> 00:28:50,187 she just finished dancing 660 00:28:50,255 --> 00:28:52,990 with her cranky but charming tutor for the first time, 661 00:28:53,058 --> 00:28:55,159 and-and it's making her just feel 662 00:28:55,226 --> 00:28:56,827 so excited she could burst. 663 00:28:56,895 --> 00:28:57,961 So it's safe to say 664 00:28:58,029 --> 00:28:59,830 that when you're singing the song, 665 00:28:59,898 --> 00:29:01,932 that you would feel all the things. 666 00:29:03,034 --> 00:29:04,935 Okay. Got it. 667 00:29:06,037 --> 00:29:07,905 Okay. W-Well, let's... 668 00:29:07,972 --> 00:29:09,807 let's go again. 669 00:29:11,276 --> 00:29:13,177 ♪ I'll never know ♪ 670 00:29:13,244 --> 00:29:17,347 ♪ What made it so exciting ♪ 671 00:29:17,415 --> 00:29:19,616 ♪ Why all at once ♪ 672 00:29:19,684 --> 00:29:24,721 ♪ My heart took flight ♪ 673 00:29:24,789 --> 00:29:30,260 ♪ I only know when he ♪ 674 00:29:30,328 --> 00:29:33,430 ♪ Began to dance with me ♪ 675 00:29:33,498 --> 00:29:34,598 ♪ I could have danced ♪ 676 00:29:34,666 --> 00:29:38,402 ♪ Danced, danced... ♪ 677 00:29:38,470 --> 00:29:41,038 ♪ All ♪ 678 00:29:41,106 --> 00:29:44,675 ♪ Night. ♪ 679 00:29:44,742 --> 00:29:47,511 I did not tread lightly. 680 00:29:47,579 --> 00:29:49,580 So I heard. 681 00:29:51,983 --> 00:29:53,917 Tess said she saw a look on my face 682 00:29:53,985 --> 00:29:55,296 when I walked in on her and Alex, 683 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:59,189 saw me reacting to them... being together. 684 00:29:59,257 --> 00:30:00,691 Mm. 685 00:30:05,463 --> 00:30:08,031 I don't know what's wrong with me. 686 00:30:08,099 --> 00:30:11,401 When Tess first came out, I was totally fine. 687 00:30:11,469 --> 00:30:13,070 And now I-I... 688 00:30:17,308 --> 00:30:19,376 I think I'm having trouble letting go. 689 00:30:20,979 --> 00:30:23,113 What are you letting go of? 690 00:30:24,249 --> 00:30:26,116 She's my firstborn daughter. 691 00:30:27,485 --> 00:30:29,786 I had all these dreams about what it was gonna be like 692 00:30:29,854 --> 00:30:31,555 when she got older, you know? Like... 693 00:30:31,623 --> 00:30:33,134 she'd talk to me about the boys she liked 694 00:30:33,158 --> 00:30:35,792 or I'd help her get ready for dates. 695 00:30:35,860 --> 00:30:37,669 One day, I would watch her walk down the aisle 696 00:30:37,679 --> 00:30:39,947 towards a man every bit as good as her father. 697 00:30:42,450 --> 00:30:45,619 I thought I had let all that go, but I... 698 00:30:46,788 --> 00:30:50,257 Well, it's-it's more than letting go. 699 00:30:50,325 --> 00:30:52,526 You have to adjust. 700 00:30:55,163 --> 00:30:56,831 It's part of being a mother. 701 00:30:57,899 --> 00:31:01,268 This is the part where you let go of what you thought would be 702 00:31:01,336 --> 00:31:04,305 and adjust to what is. 703 00:31:04,372 --> 00:31:06,006 When you left dance, 704 00:31:06,074 --> 00:31:09,510 I thought that you would go into academics, like me. 705 00:31:09,578 --> 00:31:11,812 I thought you would choose to stay in D.C. 706 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:13,514 and be close, always. 707 00:31:13,582 --> 00:31:16,984 See, that was my picture of your life. 708 00:31:18,053 --> 00:31:20,120 But the real picture... 709 00:31:20,188 --> 00:31:23,123 the woman you actually become, 710 00:31:23,191 --> 00:31:26,727 the things you actually want... 711 00:31:26,795 --> 00:31:28,529 they're just as beautiful. 712 00:31:34,369 --> 00:31:36,704 It took me some time to see that. 713 00:31:38,707 --> 00:31:41,408 Too much time, if you ask me. 714 00:31:42,911 --> 00:31:45,746 So I hope that you will adjust quicker, Bethany. 715 00:31:47,515 --> 00:31:50,618 Time is so precious. 716 00:31:50,685 --> 00:31:53,053 You blink 717 00:31:53,121 --> 00:31:56,156 and your daughter's grown 718 00:31:56,224 --> 00:31:57,825 and you're holed up in her house, 719 00:31:57,893 --> 00:32:01,161 trying to make up for 20 years 720 00:32:01,229 --> 00:32:03,697 of not adjusting. 721 00:32:40,100 --> 00:32:41,267 Okay. 722 00:32:41,420 --> 00:32:44,355 Twins are finally in bed after a long day at the park. 723 00:32:44,423 --> 00:32:47,559 Had to sing "Rock-a-bye Baby" to them about ten times. 724 00:32:49,428 --> 00:32:51,796 It's some bleak, bleak lyrics, but it works. 725 00:32:51,864 --> 00:32:53,330 Least it's not "Ring Around the Rosie". 726 00:32:53,340 --> 00:32:54,426 - Yeah. - 'Cause that song is the 727 00:32:54,450 --> 00:32:55,374 stuff of nightmares. 728 00:32:55,384 --> 00:32:57,504 Oh, that song is just brutal, isn't it? 729 00:32:58,712 --> 00:33:00,680 Kevin... 730 00:33:00,747 --> 00:33:03,382 - Yeah? - I... 731 00:33:03,450 --> 00:33:06,118 I don't think I want to get married at the Villas. 732 00:33:10,557 --> 00:33:12,458 You don't? 733 00:33:14,561 --> 00:33:17,163 So, my father was a pretty... 734 00:33:17,230 --> 00:33:20,032 withholding man. 735 00:33:20,100 --> 00:33:22,101 Emotionally, I mean. 736 00:33:22,169 --> 00:33:25,071 And, um, he wasn't around a lot when I was little. 737 00:33:25,138 --> 00:33:27,740 - Traveled a lot. - Mm. 738 00:33:27,808 --> 00:33:29,375 So, my mother... 739 00:33:29,443 --> 00:33:31,577 One day, she finally put her foot down. 740 00:33:31,645 --> 00:33:33,813 You know, told him to... 741 00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,549 "Take us with you on one of your business trips. 742 00:33:36,616 --> 00:33:39,552 Make time for us, or else." 743 00:33:39,619 --> 00:33:42,555 He took us to Japan. 744 00:33:44,650 --> 00:33:46,584 Which explains the Kabuki mask collection. 745 00:33:46,652 --> 00:33:50,188 - Yeah. - We spent a perfect day 746 00:33:50,255 --> 00:33:53,124 walking around the most beautiful garden 747 00:33:53,192 --> 00:33:55,560 I have ever seen. 748 00:33:55,627 --> 00:33:59,597 My mom laughed a lot. 749 00:33:59,665 --> 00:34:03,701 I remember my dad held both our hands, 750 00:34:03,769 --> 00:34:06,871 actually asked me questions about school. 751 00:34:06,939 --> 00:34:10,641 We had a picnic under the cherry trees. 752 00:34:12,778 --> 00:34:15,680 For one day... 753 00:34:15,747 --> 00:34:18,282 we were a family. 754 00:34:19,851 --> 00:34:23,354 A few weeks later, they told me they were getting divorced. 755 00:34:24,489 --> 00:34:26,290 I guess you would think 756 00:34:26,358 --> 00:34:28,726 that would have soured the trip in my mind, but... 757 00:34:28,794 --> 00:34:31,963 I have spent a lifetime 758 00:34:32,030 --> 00:34:35,366 chasing the happiness I felt in that garden. 759 00:34:39,338 --> 00:34:42,073 So, there's this garden 760 00:34:42,140 --> 00:34:44,141 that I really love. 761 00:34:44,209 --> 00:34:46,911 It's not as fancy as the Villas, 762 00:34:46,979 --> 00:34:49,814 but it's outside, and it's-it's covid-safe, 763 00:34:49,881 --> 00:34:54,318 and it has a lot of the same trees 764 00:34:54,386 --> 00:34:55,620 - and flowers. - Yes. 765 00:34:57,322 --> 00:34:59,624 Yeah, let's get married there. 766 00:34:59,691 --> 00:35:00,858 Just like that? 767 00:35:01,994 --> 00:35:03,194 Just like that. 768 00:35:04,329 --> 00:35:06,230 I mean, it sounds perfect. 769 00:35:09,501 --> 00:35:11,469 Come in. 770 00:35:14,773 --> 00:35:16,073 Hey. 771 00:35:17,609 --> 00:35:19,076 Hey. 772 00:35:22,481 --> 00:35:23,914 Tess. 773 00:35:27,619 --> 00:35:30,955 You will not call me names. 774 00:35:31,023 --> 00:35:33,224 Not in front of anyone. 775 00:35:33,292 --> 00:35:34,859 Not in private. 776 00:35:34,926 --> 00:35:38,195 That is not the way we do things in this house. 777 00:35:39,364 --> 00:35:41,098 Understood? 778 00:35:43,235 --> 00:35:44,602 Understood. 779 00:35:47,339 --> 00:35:49,707 But... 780 00:35:49,775 --> 00:35:52,843 you should be able to tell me how I make you feel. 781 00:35:56,448 --> 00:35:58,382 If you saw anything on my face today 782 00:35:58,450 --> 00:36:00,751 when I saw you and Alex together on your bed, 783 00:36:00,819 --> 00:36:03,020 you need to know this. 784 00:36:03,088 --> 00:36:06,624 It has nothing to do with how much I love you. 785 00:36:07,759 --> 00:36:10,528 Actually, it has nothing to do with you at all. 786 00:36:11,663 --> 00:36:14,131 Because you're perfect. 787 00:36:15,667 --> 00:36:17,535 Just the way you are. 788 00:36:19,237 --> 00:36:21,405 And Alex seems pretty perfect 789 00:36:21,473 --> 00:36:23,541 just the way they are. 790 00:36:31,783 --> 00:36:33,551 Is there anything else you want to say to me? 791 00:36:40,025 --> 00:36:41,892 I know you're trying. 792 00:36:43,528 --> 00:36:46,430 I also know you don't have to try with Annie. 793 00:36:46,498 --> 00:36:48,265 Or Deja. 794 00:36:49,434 --> 00:36:51,635 And it makes me sad. 795 00:36:51,703 --> 00:36:54,004 Makes me wonder if we'll ever be close again. 796 00:36:55,140 --> 00:36:57,875 Oh, Tess, of course we will. 797 00:36:57,943 --> 00:37:00,311 We are close now. 798 00:37:00,379 --> 00:37:03,948 We are, and we always will be. 799 00:37:05,484 --> 00:37:07,318 Okay, Mom. 800 00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:19,769 And then my speech helped Amelia soar. 801 00:37:19,779 --> 00:37:20,923 I mean, Philip wouldn't admit it, 802 00:37:20,947 --> 00:37:22,648 but we both know that she really soared. 803 00:37:22,715 --> 00:37:24,783 Bam! Hell yeah, she did. 804 00:37:24,851 --> 00:37:27,419 Nobody summarizes My Fair Lady 805 00:37:27,487 --> 00:37:28,887 - like you, babe. - Thank you. 806 00:37:30,957 --> 00:37:33,859 You okay? I'm sorry, I know I've been talking 807 00:37:33,927 --> 00:37:36,461 - a mile a minute since I got home. - Uh, yeah. 808 00:37:36,529 --> 00:37:39,631 No, I'm fine. I'm just really, really tired. 809 00:37:41,534 --> 00:37:44,336 I do have some good photos from today. You want to see? 810 00:37:44,404 --> 00:37:47,406 What? Holding out on me? 811 00:37:47,473 --> 00:37:50,008 Babe. 812 00:37:50,076 --> 00:37:53,078 Look at him on a swing! Aw. 813 00:38:01,054 --> 00:38:02,788 Hello? 814 00:38:02,855 --> 00:38:05,157 Oh, hey. Uh, hey, Miguel. It's Nicky. 815 00:38:06,326 --> 00:38:09,528 Oh. Uh... hey. 816 00:38:09,596 --> 00:38:12,130 Uh... 817 00:38:12,198 --> 00:38:15,701 I j... I just want to apologize for the way I acted before. 818 00:38:15,768 --> 00:38:18,937 Th-That was... That was my own stuff. 819 00:38:19,005 --> 00:38:20,405 Had nothing to do with you. 820 00:38:20,473 --> 00:38:22,841 Okay. Um... 821 00:38:22,909 --> 00:38:24,943 Well, thank you. 822 00:38:25,011 --> 00:38:27,045 Okay. Well, anyway, that's it. 823 00:38:27,113 --> 00:38:28,614 Um... 824 00:38:28,681 --> 00:38:30,282 Sorry to bother you. 825 00:38:30,350 --> 00:38:35,020 - Good night. - He never replaced you, Nicky. 826 00:38:35,088 --> 00:38:36,622 All right. 827 00:38:36,689 --> 00:38:39,024 Well, my work is done here. 828 00:38:39,092 --> 00:38:40,993 It's all on you now, my friend. 829 00:38:44,097 --> 00:38:47,866 Hey, things go well tonight, 830 00:38:47,934 --> 00:38:49,301 you know, like, she says yes 831 00:38:49,369 --> 00:38:51,203 - and everything... - She's gonna... 832 00:38:51,270 --> 00:38:54,906 ...would you stand at the altar with me? 833 00:38:54,974 --> 00:38:58,343 You know, maybe say a few words at the reception? 834 00:39:00,246 --> 00:39:02,147 We both knew what he meant, 835 00:39:02,215 --> 00:39:03,782 but he just, uh... 836 00:39:03,850 --> 00:39:05,317 He couldn't say the words. 837 00:39:05,385 --> 00:39:09,087 He, he couldn't call me his best man 838 00:39:09,155 --> 00:39:12,724 because I think that somewhere deep down, 839 00:39:12,792 --> 00:39:15,494 he was saving that place for you. 840 00:39:19,232 --> 00:39:20,632 You know, 841 00:39:20,700 --> 00:39:23,001 if you wanted to, 842 00:39:23,069 --> 00:39:25,637 we could do the rehearsal dinner toast together. 843 00:39:25,705 --> 00:39:28,874 Oh, no, I-I don't want to give a toast. I just... 844 00:39:28,941 --> 00:39:31,777 I just didn't like the idea that you were gonna do it. 845 00:39:54,434 --> 00:39:56,702 Hey, Kev. 846 00:39:56,769 --> 00:39:59,204 Saw your big news in the tabloids. 847 00:39:59,272 --> 00:40:00,539 Yeah. 848 00:40:00,606 --> 00:40:02,107 Thank God the five-o'clock shadow 849 00:40:02,175 --> 00:40:03,775 is quarantine chic, right? 850 00:40:03,843 --> 00:40:05,310 Um... 851 00:40:05,378 --> 00:40:08,480 So, so, Randall, the reason I'm calling 852 00:40:08,548 --> 00:40:10,649 is, uh... 853 00:40:13,820 --> 00:40:16,788 I'm calling to ask you to be my best man. 854 00:40:18,925 --> 00:40:20,192 Absolutely. 855 00:40:20,259 --> 00:40:22,260 Uh, I'd be honored. 856 00:40:22,328 --> 00:40:24,629 I've been putting this call off all day. 857 00:40:24,697 --> 00:40:26,665 All week, if I'm being honest. 858 00:40:26,733 --> 00:40:29,768 And it's not because I thought you'd say no. It's just... 859 00:40:31,003 --> 00:40:32,637 When you stand up there next to me, 860 00:40:32,705 --> 00:40:34,349 I don't want there to be anything between us. 861 00:40:34,373 --> 00:40:36,708 And-and I know when the twins were born, 862 00:40:36,776 --> 00:40:38,887 you said it was a bad time to talk about our childhoods 863 00:40:38,911 --> 00:40:40,789 and, uh, how you felt growing up in our family... 864 00:40:40,813 --> 00:40:43,381 Hey, Kev, I don't want you to take this the wrong way, 865 00:40:43,449 --> 00:40:45,083 but I don't think now is the right time 866 00:40:45,151 --> 00:40:46,551 to have this conversation, either. 867 00:40:46,619 --> 00:40:48,587 It's, uh, it's been a day. 868 00:40:48,654 --> 00:40:51,123 I agree. No, I-I don't want to have that talk right now. 869 00:40:51,190 --> 00:40:52,901 In fact, I don't want to have it over the phone at all. 870 00:40:52,925 --> 00:40:54,126 I was, um... 871 00:40:57,296 --> 00:40:59,696 What if I come... What if I come out? What if I come see you? 872 00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,268 You... Really? 873 00:41:03,336 --> 00:41:06,538 Yeah, yeah. You know, I talked it over with Madison, and I got 874 00:41:06,606 --> 00:41:08,140 some free time. What if I come out? 875 00:41:08,207 --> 00:41:10,575 You know, after we all get our shots? 876 00:41:10,643 --> 00:41:12,444 Yeah, brother. 877 00:41:12,512 --> 00:41:14,479 That's-that's cool with me. 878 00:41:14,547 --> 00:41:17,349 Well, all right, then. I'll, you know... 879 00:41:17,416 --> 00:41:19,217 I'll book a flight. 880 00:41:19,285 --> 00:41:20,886 Okay. 881 00:41:20,953 --> 00:41:23,522 Talk to you later. 882 00:41:39,372 --> 00:41:41,773 Manny say what? 883 00:42:23,500 --> 00:42:25,000 Subtitle sync and corrections by awaqeded for www.addic7ed.com.